Looking for love in preschool
Filed under: Lifestyle, Preschool, Family togetherness, Moms, Dads, Going to school, 4 years, Adventures in Parenting, Child care, Parental relationships
When my husband was unemployed for a period of time last year, he began to take over some of the parenting responsibilities that had fallen on me. He suddenly had more time to spare than I did, so it made sense that he should begin doing things like taking Ellie to school. Prior to that time, I had been dropping Ellie off on my way to work each morning. I was usually in a hurry and didn't spend much time chatting with the other parents. My husband, however, is a very gregarious man and having nothing but time, he began to form friendships with some of the parents. Bear in mind, most of the parents he met at school were women.When one of his new friendships resulted in an invitation to a dinner party, I was quite pleased. Being new to this area, we don't have a large circle of friends and I was happy to be invited to get to know Susie's (not her real name!) parents. We both really enjoyed the party and felt we had found some new friends. This great new friendship fantasy was short lived.
A few days after the party, I decided to take take Ellie to school myself. After getting her settled in, I was about to leave when one of her teachers asked to speak to me in private. With raised eyebrows, she handed me a piece of paper and told me that "Susie's" mother had left a note for my husband. The note was addressed to him only and included her cell phone number and a suggestion that they meet for coffee soon.
I found this note-leaving highly inappropriate and my intuition told me that this woman was hitting on my husband. For his part, my husband thought the note was innocent and that I was overreacting. He really wanted to be friends with her husband and wondered why I couldn't just give her the benefit of the doubt? I turned that over in my mind awhile and decided that no, I could not be friends with a woman who would leave such a note for my husband. If it was so innocent, why didn't she just call our house?
A survey of my female friends backed me up. But to this day, my husband thinks I let a possible friendship go for no good reason. What do you think? Was this woman trying to start something with my husband?Permalink | Email this | Linking Blogs | Comments